Thursday, January 20, 2011

BFF material

It's crazy how when you get older your "friendships" are so different then when you were younger. Remember in school? You had one BFF that you told EVERYTHING to! I've noticed as I've gotten older that it is harder to have just one person to everything to. I have several "best" friends but I don't think I talk to any one of them about everything. I do have one that I talk about almost everything.
What I have noticed more than anything....some of my friendships are very one sided. Some friends realize you are a great friend but only want to be "bffs" when it fits their lifestyle at the moment. They are the selfish friend. You rarely call them if anything important happens to you but they ALWAYS call you when something major happens to them. (Damn being a good listener right?) These also happen to be the people that are really just not bff material. Never have been and probably never will be.
I consider myself lucky that I have several ladies that I feel close to. But I also wonder some time.... Do anyone one of these ladies know the real me? And does anyone think of me as a close or "bff"?
But no matter what the case is, my friends do know some important things about me as a friend. I will always listen to you when you need someone to just be there. Also, I will always be honest (not always a good thing). When people ask for my opinion, I give it to them..honestly. I don't tell people what they want to here. Really? Who does that help anyways? I always say what I personally think. Does that mean that they are wrong if they don't agree? No.
There really wasn't much point to this post. But I do think that ladies think about this from time to time.


  1. I would like to say that I do know you!!! and I dont consider you a close friend. You are definitely my bff!! i love you jess!! x0x0x0

  2. I wonder the same thing sometimes...If the people that I consider to be my bffs or close friends feel the same way about me.
    Even though we don't talk as often as we used to, I do consider you to be a close friend. I know you are always there if I need someone to talk to. I hope you feel the same and know that I'm always here for you.